Ready for some philosophizing? Shh. Don’t tell my husband I used that term–his heart rate might escalate.
It’s heavy. It sits on my chest every day–the loss of these people. And there are others–people I don’t know personally, but who are on my radar.
Is everyone suddenly dying? Will it stop? Will it ever get easier?
I guess the answer is “no.” A clanging, resounding NO.
But it isn’t without hope. There truly is a reverberation of promise–of expectancy. I WILL see these people again. They ARE with their Savior. And others are STILL here.
More than anything this year I’ve learned to treasure time. When I lose someone all of those times I had with them are gathered like a blanket around me. They comfort me, warm me, and ease some of the pain. Those funny memories cut through the tears and I’m able to laugh. The inside jokes are immortalized and worth more than any heirloom I might value.
Why wait to cherish a memory until someone is gone? Why do we do this to ourselves? “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.” I hate that expression. I refuse to let that characterize me anymore.
I’m going into this holiday season with a definitive plan to cherish each moment with my family. I love presents more than most people. Truly, gift giving is my “thing.” My love language. But the presence of loved ones is just so much more valuable to me these days.
So here’s a “would you rather” for you:
Would you rather give your sister a pretty scarf or spend an afternoon with her at Starbucks?
Would you rather buy your dad a baseball cap or go with him to a sporting event?
Would you rather buy your spouse new shoes or have a romantic walk on the beach?
Would you rather have your children anticipate twenty Christmas presents or anticipate a calendar loaded with special times with different family members?
Here’s the real clincher: would you rather have spent last Christmas going to that movie you talked about going to with Tirzah or just stay home and clean up the aftermath of a bunch of presents?
Unfortunately, we didn’t go to the movie together. It was True Grit, and being a John Wayne fanatic Tirzah was the quintessential person to see it with. That was just last Christmas.
I’m doing things different this Christmas. How about you?