Quick rundown of my personal situation:
I have two daughters – 4 and 5.5 -, my partner works from home 90% of the time while I’m a support worker for a woman with late stage Multiple Sclerosis and we’re closing on a house after searching for about a year so we’re in the packing and paperwork stage.
Summer break starts on the 1st of July here, we got back from a week abroad about ten days ago and I am just so done already. My children will not grant me any peace. They are stuck to me like glue from the second I get home until they finally fall asleep well past their bedtimes after many tantrums and tactics to stall.
They get up at 6AM at the latest, we’ve tried reward charts, later bedtimes, special alarm clocks, nothing keeps them in bed longer. We moved my youngest into my eldest daughter’s room because she – the youngest – kept waking up in the middle of the night. This helped for a while but ever since our trip abroad, it’s started again.
From the moment I get home – I mean, I’m in the doorway, still holding my bag -, they won’t take so much as a step without my involvement. I can’t pee on my own, I can’t take the trash out, we’ll be watching TV and they’ll both be at least partially on top of me, asking me 700 questions. Bedtimes are a nightmare. My 5-year-old is clingy, she doesn’t want me to go, I have to stay with her forever, etcetera. Same thing when I leave for work; tears, tantrums, tactics. The 4-year-old seems generally happy but seems to be forever wanting more physical affection.
I love my daughters so very much but I seriously cannot live like this anymore. They’re not like this with my partner, they get plenty of attention, I’ve had the same work schedule for a year now, they don’t seem to be experiencing any stress to do with the move… I don’t know what I’m doing wrong but I do know that I’m so constantly overstimulated that I’m losing my temper a lot more than I would like. And then I feel guilty and it’s a spiral of frustration and fatigue. Advice?