Yesterday when I (F26) arrived to pick up my daughter (F2) from daycare, she was screaming and on the naughty corner seat. I knew she’d had done something wrong so I quickly signed her out so I could go to her. As I was signing her out, I’d heard a teacher shouting at her to stop crying & when I’d turned to get her, another teacher had taken her out of the naughty corner seat and moved the seat to where the other kids were. She then picked up my daughter & very hastily threw her on the seat. Throughout this whole process no teachers had seen me arrive & the two continued to shout at her to stop crying, making her cry even more. She seemed so traumatised.
I then walk to the area they were in & the head teacher came out from another area calmly explaining my daughter had pushed over a new child who is still trying to find her grounds within the daycare. I immediately felt guilty & apologised for my daughters behaviour. She then explained that my daughter was having trouble responding to being in the naughty corner and that is why she’s so upset, but she did not see or hear her other two staff members mishandle my daughter.
I do not want to make a complaint because these two teachers are the type to pick on my daughter if I’ve had a word with them or management. I have overheard them express their distaste for other kids while I’ve dropped my daughter off.
But on the same hand I know I need to say something about it because now I fear for my daughters emotional health as I believe they do not know how to effectively correct her. I know what she did was very wrong but I also feel the way they handled it was also wrong.
Now I just feel like I cannot trust what they say about my daughter when I pick her up, because the teacher that mishandled her usually sings my daughters praises when I see her but now I’m wondering if it’s all an act. Every day when I get sent an update of the daycares daily activities through the app, there’s plenty of photos of all the other kids with staff members enjoying themselves then there’s probably one photo, if not none, of my daughter. I’m beginning to wonder if they’ve already decided they do not like my daughter but put on an act while I’m there because they have to.
How do I go about letting the staff know my stance without it affecting their treatment of my daughter?