First of all – SHOULD I try to correct this problem We have created? We have made it the norm for everyone to eat way more than we should. Maybe cook out? Sure eat two hot dogs and a burger plus sides. Pizza? Everyone gets half a large pizza to themselves. Grilled cheese and soups for dinner? Each sandwiches needs 2 pieces of cheese on Texas toast and everyone gets two. Bbq nachos? Make enough so everyone gets two full plates. Macaroni as a side? 3 boxes for a fam of 6. Ramen noodles? 2 packs plus a sandwich probably.
I’ve found that usually on Reddit when you talk about reducing the amount of food kids eat you’re met with “You’re teaching your kids to have a toxic relationship with food!!!” “You’re gonna give them an eating disorder, bad parenting!” Etc.
Obviously it’s better to never form the bad habits in the first place but once you do and you realize it and want to do better, how do you do that without causing problems?
I have two kids who are overweigh/obese- 12f (34.9bmi) and 15m (34.4bmi)
I have 1 child 14m who literally eats more than those two and is perfect weight wise according to the doc. Afraid if I cut down on his food he might lose weight? But my other kids will notice if he is allowed to eat the current amount if I cut back on theirs.
And I have 1 kid 5m that I am trying to instill healthy habits from the get go and his weight is good still.
ETA: kids are pretty sedentary but pace a lot. No organized sports and no interest in them. Advice on how to get their activity level up without it feeling like I am intentionally trying to make them lose weight would be nice since none of them really like active things. 5m is average activity for 5yo.