By | August 6, 2013

When I first started blogging–years ago–I was keenly aware of the smallness of my own voice. I would hit “publish” and send my words off into the vast sea of cyberspace, hoping for a comment or two from Mom and a friend.

I was so small. Tiny. Quiet. Who would ever hear me?

Today I consider myself a professional blogger. I make money doing this. Not a ton, but enough to make a difference in our lifestyle. Enough to take some pride in my work and splurge now and then on expensive hair products.

I just came back from my first BlogHer, and as this is quite the milestone in the life of a blogger, I have to share some of it with you. And yes, that was a run-on sentence.

People said it would be overwhelming and exhausting. It was both of those things.

I was afraid that I’d feel small–that my voice would be shushed in the midst of so many louder and larger voices.

Is it better to have one child?

Know what I found out? That in this giant sea of bloggers, every voice can still be heard. Sure, when you put 5000 women in the same room it might sound a bit like exorcising demons out of a Foster Farms chicken factory…but the point is, we’ll hear you.

It was humbling to get to hug some of the people who have cheered me on in my struggle with vicodin addiction. It was incredible to meet “famous” bloggers and confirm that yes, they are just normal, sweet people.

Like I’ve found at other conferences, the relational element of this career is phenomenal.

“I GET to be here! I GET to be friends with these people!” I said that to myself probably a thousand times. Because really, without blogging, I would never even know them.

I have friends–heart friends through blogging. Friends that will cry with me, laugh with me, and cheer me on in every little success I find. I went to dinner with a group of such people and would you believe it if I told you we had a Shaky Face contest and then had a group weep sesh over our love for each other?

Yes, that happened.

I heard that some folks think BlogHer is clickish. That it’s just too much. I disagree. I think there’s room for everyone. There are enough listeners there to hear your voice. If you go wanting to make a connection–you will make it. No matter how “small” you think you are.

If there is one thing I absolutely LOVE about this career it is that you get ahead by helping others. Is there any other field like that? Blogging is collaborative. It’s a conversation. A dialogue. You HAVE to talk to people. You HAVE to connect.

So if you’re on the fence about starting a blog because you think the sea is too full of fish, well, jump on in! Don’t let the fact that it’s Shark Week deter you. It’s scary, yes, but it’s also wonderful. I cannot believe the kind of opportunities that are available in this field.

For example, just a year ago I roomed with two complete strangers, Natalia and Brittany. Brittany couldn’t be there this year cause she just had a darling little baby (named PIPPA–how cute is that??) but Natalia and I roomed together again. Um, and Natalia SPOKE at Blogher. I got to sit in and feel like a proud mama hen (chicken reference, again).

natalia and i

Will I do BlogHer again? You betcha! But I will NOT forget comfortable shoes next time. No sireeebob. Thanks to Erin and Ellen from Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms for hooking me up with these puppies.




20 thoughts on “BlogHer

  1. Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms

    We were happy to collaborate with you on those shoes. ???? SO glad we got to have that bus ride with you! Love you with your strength, your good heart, and your beautiful smile. Ellen

  2. Aleta

    Love your pictures and the message in this post. But I’m a wall flower by nature ???? Quiet is my middle name ???? That said, I’d love the chance to go there once.

  3. Leslie

    Loved every minute with you and wish I could have had more! You are a delight! #ShakeyFaceSistersForever

    1. hillary

      OMG I had such a great time with you too! Shakey Face will dominate the planet by the end of the year. I’m sure of it. Also, I’m working on something for ITPR ????

  4. Susan

    You just might have changed my mind on this one! Never been and honestly, the introvert that I am might in fact hide in the closet the whole weekend! Who knows, maybe I will be going next year and wear flip flops too. ????

  5. just JENNIFER

    I love what you said about blogging being collaborative and getting ahead by helping others – so true! Love this community!

    1. hillary

      Its my favorite part. And it’s something I didn’t learn for a long time. I thought it was a solo-venture. Totally not the case!

  6. Chris Carter

    Do I get to hug and kiss you and squeal with delight and my tiny voice be heard too??? Oh how I hope so next year!! That THAT would be the very bestest BEST! ???? I will wear gym shoes. For sure.

  7. Alison Hector

    You certainly sold me on BlogHer! So glad that you had a blast! And you’re right, the connections and the opportunity to help others make blogging a unique world that I’m proud to be a part of.

    1. hillary

      You definitely should try to go next year! I love this aspect of blogging ????

  8. Darlynn @ the little blog dress

    I’m cheering you on from this post! I went to blogher last year and I am kicking myself for not going! You captured it perfectly! Yay!!!

  9. nicole

    I’m so jealous of you, I may actually have to stop reading your blog. I can only afford Suave hair products when they’re on sale, and I’m fairly certain my grandpa is my sole blog follower.

    1. hillary

      Ok, it honestly took me forever to make money doing this. And I did everything the wrong way, so thats probably why. But I promise you, if you want it–and collaborate with others—you can make it such a sweet job for yourself!

  10. Mustardbrain39

    I’m relatively new to the blogging community, and never knew that such a thing as BlogHer existed until recently. I’m so happy for you and your success. I love your sense of humor and how honest you are with everything. Maybe one day we’ll meet at BlogHer – if I ever get the hang of how to work this crazy thing. ????

    1. hillary

      Absolutely! I would love to hang out ???? The wonderful thing about blogging is the more you put into it the more you’ll get out of it. So keep plugging away!

  11. Natalia

    Of all the pictures, oh my gosh that one! Hilarious! We are pretty amazing though! Love you & SO HAPPY to have met you through this crazy wonderful world of blogging!

    1. hillary

      Of course. How could I NOT pick it?? It fully encapsulates our love for one another.


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