20 Things To Do With A Teenage DaughterNov 12th

When I wrote my post 20 Mommy Daughter Dates, I aimed it towards younger girls. But now I realize there are a lot of moms out there searching for things to do with a teenage daughter. Or an adult daughter. Right?

teenage daughter

I got great feedback last time in the comments. It is absolutely lovely to hear from the folks who read my blog. The people who are sweet, and thoughtful enough to leave comments are the backbone of a blogger. Without that interaction, we’re just talking into a silent space.

So, because the last one was such a hit, and because my readers contributed some EXCELLENT ideas, we’re expanding this concept a little further.

Today, I bring you:

20 Older Mommy Daughter Dates

Because the little girls you date as a mommy grow to be older daughters. And a lot of moms are frantically searching for things to do with a teenage daughter…or adult daughters.

1.) Play Hooky. Yes, school is important. We all know that. But you know what else is important? Doing something a little on the sneaky side with mom. Whether it’s a bad period, a bad break-up, or a bad break-out–your daughter will need a chance to hide away. Why not hide away with her mom?

Surprise her with a day. Tell her that the day is for pizza and chocolate chip cookies, pajamas and chick flicks, and lots of girl talk. Or maybe no talk, but lots of girl time. She might not remember a thing she learned in school that year, but she WILL remember that day you gave her a huge break.

2.) Lunch and Shopping. Ok, really? Do I need to elaborate on this one? Probably not. I do want to say one thing though: the special aspect of this seemingly simple activity is timelessness. No really, it is.

There are so many memories jammed in my head of sharing this date with my mom. Time and time again. I still remember some of the outfits that we got from those special days. There was one when I was in fifth grade–a top and shorts-set that had sunflowers all over it. The real glory was the matching sunflower hat. It was just my mom and I that day, and I felt like the coolest girl in the world.

Fast-forward ten years and my mom and I are shopping for the perfect prom dress. Five more years and we’re hunting for my wedding gown. A couple more years and she’s buying me my first maternity outfit.

See? Timeless.

3.) Scrapbooking. This is definitely a hobby that requires a certain amount of patience and commitment, but if you and your daughter are craft-minded it’s a great a way to share quality time. It’s something you can start at a very young age and develop into adulthood.

I confess, I am horrible at scrapbooking. I have several half-completed attempts. My kids do not have baby-books. Yet. Maybe this will be something I do with Coco when she’s in high school. Ha!

4.) Book Club. It doesn’t have to have a bunch of members–just you two! Share the exciting journey of reading together. My mom and I have been doing this ever since I was in junior high. We still swap books and never tire of discussing what we’re reading.

5.) Wine Tasting. Go on a tour of a vineyard and get the full sensory experience of sight, taste, and smell. You’ll walk away a bit buzzed and a lot inspired πŸ™‚

mom and daughter

6.) Bike Ride/Rollerblade/Hike. Ok, what better thing to do together than some good ol’ fashioned outdoorsiness? It’s never a bad idea to go on a bike ride. It’s never a bad idea to go on a hike. Sometimes it’s a bad idea to rollerblade, but it’s still fun.

How cool are you as a mom if you’re willing to do these things? Do you know what your daughter’s friends will say? “Oh my gosh! Your mom is so cool! She’s so cute! That’s how I want to be someday!”

I can guarantee this more than the Men’s Warehouse dude can guarantee his suits.



7.) Spa Day. Ok, it doesn’t have to be a whole day long to count as a “spa day.” It can be manis/pedis, a facial, or a massage. Heck! In my perfect world it’s a combination of all three topped with an eyebrow and mustache wax. But not the bikini wax. Nothing spa-like about that.

Anyways, this one time my family went on a cruise. My mom, sister, sis-in-law and I all went to a ladies spa night thingy. We got a facial, massage, champagne and chocolate. I felt positively Kardashian with all that royal treatment.

8.) A Cruise. I met the coolest old lady at my Bible study the other day. I had no idea she was “old” but when I did the math I realized she was probably near 80. You would never know–she was so youthful and energetic.

Anywho, she told me she had six daughter. Yes, SIX and each about a year apart. Bless her and her uterus. When the “youngest” turned 50 she took them all on a cruise to celebrate their fabulous 50’s.

Um, how cool is she? I asked if I could be a part of her family and she told me she kind of already had enough members. Darn.

9.) Go To A Show.Β For my sister’s 16th birthday my mom took us girls to Vegas for the weekend and we got to see The Phantom of the Opera. The trip was magical, unforgettable.

10.)Β Makeup Consultation. Ugh. Getting makeup or skincare can be a really daunting task. My mom took me to a makeup counter in the mall to get a consultation and buy a few products. I was probably 15 years old at the time, and SO excited about being made over by a “professional.”

Welp, I walked out with bright blue eyeshadow and red lipstick. And laughter. A lot of laughter. My “artist” had no idea what she was doing so we didn’t take any of her “advice,” but we did make quite the memory. And mom took me somewhere else to get makeup πŸ˜‰ Even if you walk away looking like a clown, it’s still a fun experience.

11.) A Half Marathon/Triathlon/Iron Woman. My mom and sis did a half-marathon together last year. I watched from the sidelines and cheered. I wanna do it next time for sure!


mom and daughter half marathon

12.)Β Dessert.Β Dessert is never a bad idea. A while back, my mom and sister came to stay with me while my husband was at a conference. We couldn’t “go out” because we had to put the kids to bed. So instead, we bought three slices of cheesecake at The Cheesecake Factory and after we put the kids down, sat on the living room floor and had a feast.

13.)Β Pinterest Party. By now, most of us have about two thousand ideas pinned on Pinterest. Take on a project together by putting some of your pins to practice! Find a few yummy recipes and a project you can start together. After you gather all your supplies, settle in for a night of replicating some fabulous ideas. You just might come up with something “pinnable.”

14.)Β Take A Class Together.Β Cooking, sewing, underwater basket-weaving…the possibilities are endless! Just go and learn something new together.

15.) Volunteer Together.Β Spend time together AND save the world. Volunteer at a hospital, nursing home, or soup kitchen. Being selfless is the best way to achieve happiness, and if you do it together you’ll overflow in a good way.

16.)Β Go To A Concert.Β Music is a great way to draw people together. Whether you want to go hear Taylor Swift live (this would be my daughter’s choice, but then she’s 4) or go to the opera, listening to live music is a wonderful way to bond. Plus, you get to wear cute clothes to a concert, so that’s a big plus.

17.)Β Write Your History. Ok, so this is kind of one of those Pandora’s box activities, because once you start it you may not be able to stop! Set aside a few afternoons a month to work through your family history together. There are so many great resources out there like Ancestry.com to help you build a family tree. It will be fascinating for both of you to explore your family’s roots and piece together the larger story.

Also, there are so many options for PRINTING out your family history into beautiful books. What a an amazing legacy you BOTH could leave by constructing a timeless piece for your entire family.

18.)Β Go To A Conference Together.Β When I went to Bloggy Boot Camp there was a mom there with her two adult daughters. Each woman had her own blog but they came together as a family. Find a conference that will fit and benefit both of you, whether it’s for blogging, photography, spiritual growth or life skills.

19.)Β Go Thrifting, YardΒ Sailing, or Flea Market Hopping.Β Most of us are bargain hunters at heart, and we ALL like buried treasure. Go on the ultimate treasure hunt by hitting up some garage sales and flea markets. You never know what you’ll find–maybe you next Pinterest project! These outings always start with a donut, so it’s a win win.

20.)Β Take Glamour Shots.Β Ooooh. Remember those? Yah, you and your daughter should definitely invest in a decent glamour shot. When else are you gonna have the chance to tease the tarnation out of your hair AND wear lace gloves? Or a pleather, rhinestone-studded jacket? You need to give your daughter all the opportunities in the world. She might not have gotten adequate awkward photos as a child. Give her this chance.

{ Not sure what I’m talking about? Head over here for some inspiration. Oh, and by the way, I’m kinda sorta obsessed with awkward photos. You can see my family’s awkward photos here, and read about my upcoming Christmas Photo Challenge while you’re at it!}


That’s all for today, folks! Please take a sec to subscribe by email, like on Facebook, and follow on The Twitter! As always, I would love to hear your thoughts! Feel free to share your ideas or questions–I’m no expert in having older daughters. I just AM an older daughter with a fabulous mama and wonderful mama-in-law.


151 Responses to 20 Things To Do With A Teenage DaughterNov 12th

  1. Keely November 12, 2012 at 6:33 pm #

    I may go wake Nora up from her nap so she can hear all about the stuff we’re gonna do. (Someday.)

    • hillary November 13, 2012 at 4:25 am #

      You’re so cute!

      • rose September 27, 2014 at 7:57 pm #

        Loved mother and daughter blog! My daughter is 12 and we both can’t wait to get started enjoying our time together..Thanks!

    • Carey August 21, 2013 at 7:46 am #

      Omg. I don’t know why but I have tears running down my face. Happy tears. Ive read all 3 ideas…mother son dates,mother daughter,and mother older daughter dates. LOVE THEM! I’m so excited to try them,with my son and my daughter. My daughter is 11 and at the akward age where she thinks I’m weird…haha. I can only dream of my mom doing these things with me when I was younger,she never did,I know how it feels and my kids will not feel this way. From my heart,Thank You:)

      • hillary August 26, 2013 at 9:25 pm #

        Hurray! So glad it touched you πŸ™‚

        • rose September 27, 2014 at 7:54 pm #

          Loved mother and daughter blog! My daughter is 12 and we both can’t wait to get started enjoying our time together..Thanks!

  2. Sue - The Spin Cycle November 12, 2012 at 6:46 pm #

    Love ’em. I’ve done quite a few of these with Twin A, but this gave me a lot more ideas to file away. Until then, maybe I can borrow one of my older girlfriends’ daughters for the wine tasting one…

    • hillary November 13, 2012 at 4:25 am #

      Hehe that’s the one I’m really looking forward to someday!

    • Monique August 8, 2013 at 1:58 pm #

      My daughter and I do “tea parties” instead of wine tasting (she’s only 6) Go to the dollar store and buy different types of teas and try them each with different cookies, biscuits, etc. Or if you have $ to splurge go to a tea store and get their specialty ones πŸ™‚ My daughter loves a white peach apricot blend (hint of cinnamon too) YUM!

      There are also tea houses were you can have your little ones dress up like a prince/ss and you as well. and viola… instant fun time πŸ™‚

      • hillary August 11, 2013 at 8:17 pm #

        How sweet! I need to take my daughter to a real tea–but I’ll probably wait til she’s a bit older πŸ˜‰

  3. Sandy Bucholtz November 12, 2012 at 8:10 pm #

    Exactly what I was looking for πŸ™‚ My daughter and I are planning a date and we were looking for some fun ideas. Thanks for the post!

    • hillary November 13, 2012 at 4:24 am #

      Hurray! So glad I could help!

  4. Stefani November 12, 2012 at 8:26 pm #

    So cute! This post totally makes me miss my Mom, though.

  5. Kim November 13, 2012 at 5:06 pm #

    I love these ideas! My daughters are now my friends. Thankfully none of us killed the others during those turbulent go-away-I-hate-you-but-give-me-money-and-the-car-first days. There is hope for moms with younger daughters. Stay the course as a mean mom and you can indeed be friends later. πŸ™‚

    • Kay May 6, 2014 at 2:11 pm #

      Oh I was glad to see this post…at this point I am going through the “turbulent go-away-I-hate-you-but-give-me-money” days…and I am “the meanest mom in the world”….hopefully we will be “friends” later on when she realizes just how much I truly love her!

      • hillary May 6, 2014 at 2:29 pm #

        Sorry to hear that! I hope you can spend some quality time with her and turn it around!

  6. Christy Rosander November 14, 2012 at 2:07 am #

    I work with your way cool and lovely mom. So fun seeing her here. What fantastic ideas to use with my two older daughters. I also read your Mommy-Daughter post for inspiration to use with my grand-daughter that is now in kindergarten. So fun. πŸ™‚ Thank you.

    • hillary November 14, 2012 at 2:32 am #

      Thank you, Christy! I always hear wonderful things about you πŸ™‚ Thanks for taking the time to stop by!

  7. aimee steckowski November 15, 2012 at 7:02 am #

    these are so great!! my mom is coming to visit {we live 3,000 miles a part from my parents} this weekend as we prepare to celebrate my 30th.. oh yeah, & thanksgiving!!! i just adore this list and can’t wait to spend time with her! πŸ™‚

  8. Jessica November 19, 2012 at 7:25 pm #

    These are great! I saw the little girls edition and want to see it again–but the link at the beginning of the post isn’t working (or is it just me?). Thanks for the ideas!

    • hillary November 20, 2012 at 5:32 am #

      Oh thank you! i’ll check out that link–maybe its broken :/

  9. T.L. November 22, 2012 at 1:06 pm #

    No, it’s not working for me either and have 2 girls (ages 3 and 5) so would love to read it. πŸ™‚

  10. Mickie November 28, 2012 at 6:57 am #

    love the ideas. my daughter is 17 and we have been doing most. at least once a semester I do the school ditch thing. she always braggs to her friends. great advice for those who are at a loss with the whole ‘teenage’ thing

    • hillary November 28, 2012 at 9:35 pm #

      Thanks! I bet she loves being able to say that. You are such a cool mom!

  11. Michelle at theycallmemummy.com November 29, 2012 at 2:44 am #

    I had the coolest mom, have the warmest, funniest memories and strive to be like her for MY kids every day. You seem like JUST that kind of mom – I love this post. It’s a good reminder to stop being a policeman sometimes and just have fun πŸ™‚

    • hillary November 29, 2012 at 3:43 am #

      Aww well thank you so much! I hope to be a great mom and your encouragement made my night tonight πŸ™‚

  12. Jessica November 30, 2012 at 4:45 pm #

    Wow! What great ideas! Too often we get busy and forget about these simply things. I think Shelby and I will go for a horse ride together this weekend. πŸ™‚

    • hillary November 30, 2012 at 6:23 pm #

      Jealous! I so wanna take my daughter horseback riding!

  13. Janet December 6, 2012 at 6:24 pm #

    I wish my mum would do stuff like this with me. She’s not interested in anything I do and despite me suggesting we do something together, she always pooh poohs it.

    • Ruth Ann December 31, 2012 at 1:32 am #

      I’m sorry your mum isn’t interested in doing things with you~it’s HER loss! How about an aunt, older cousin, neighbor, or an older church friend instead? I lost my mom when I was just 20 so I didn’t have many opportunities to do things her as an adult, but I was fortunate to have a neighbor who was (and is to this day) like an aunt to me. She and I have made memories together! And don’t stop asking your mum- hopefully she will how precious time really is!

  14. Mrs. Mapp December 7, 2012 at 10:08 pm #

    I absolutely love this page. My mother and I are like bestfriends and we got shopping and lunch/dinner all the time, but we have never done the cruise, vacation or classes, etc. together, so I am definitely going to get going on these immediately. I know we are going to have a blast. Thank you for this posting! Mothers & Daughters are the best:)

  15. Hannah Strong December 8, 2012 at 3:46 am #

    I love this post. My mom is one of my best friends, a big inspiration and someone I love spending time with! Are is usually in the kitchen, in the garden or in the craft room. But i have many special moments and I treasure them all!

    • hillary December 8, 2012 at 7:03 am #

      That is so wonderful. I hope and pray that my daughter and I can be friends when she is an adult!

  16. Elizabeth December 8, 2012 at 4:24 pm #

    My daughter is only 10 and I can’t wait to do some of these things with her (wine tasting (-: ) but she is being a brat right now and I can only hope we will be friends when she is an adult.

    • Monique August 8, 2013 at 2:04 pm #

      Aww you can do some spin offs with yours. Mine is 6. check out my reply to Sue – The Spin Cycle.

  17. Dee Dillow December 9, 2012 at 3:22 pm #

    I have 8 daughters from 41-14 since their is such a wide range of age I have asked my oldest daughter do some of this with them(she was blessed with only sons). This is a great list thanks for blogging

  18. Amanda Pelaccio December 11, 2012 at 3:45 am #

    Love this post! You had me at the first one lol! I would like to say that me and my mother are very close and do lots together. But the one thing we LOVE to do together is take trips. While I was working at a hotel I would treat her to Mother’s Day trips, and we also have an obsession with Disneyland so we frequently go there. We both have the same styles when it comes to vacations so it is always fun. This year I will be graduating grad school with my masters and my mother will be turning 50 so to celebrate we have a trip planned to London together. Its something we’re both looking forward to πŸ™‚

  19. Tesha December 12, 2012 at 8:53 pm #

    Thanks for these ideas. I have been trying to figure out some things to do with my 13 year old. These are great.

  20. Amanda December 13, 2012 at 2:59 pm #

    I loved reading this. My mom and I don’t live in the same city any more so, it’s really important for us to spend our time wisely together. This helped me to think of some things for us to do, the next time we get to see each other. Thanks so much!

  21. Robin Merriman December 13, 2012 at 3:54 pm #

    Love this post! I have a 15 year old daughter that is not into gifts, but really into experiences and quality time. I’ve already done several of the things on your list with her – took her to NYC this August for 3 days and did back to school shopping for high school , that was a BIG hit!
    But you’ve inspired me to make her a coupon book for her Christmas stocking this year. Full of fun experiences we can have together that she can redeem through the year.
    Thanks for the inspiration!

  22. Mary December 15, 2012 at 2:30 pm #

    My daughter and I cherish our relationship together and love to have special time together and doing alot of the things on this list. My daughter is a Senior in High School and for her spring break we are planning a trip to Mexico with her best friend and her mom. Just the girls and we all have been counting the days down to our trip. I think this memory is going to have a positive lasting impact on our special relationship!

  23. Bailey December 26, 2012 at 1:14 am #

    We go get our nails done or if the budget doesn’t permit we creat our own crazy nail designs

  24. Carri December 26, 2012 at 3:56 am #

    Once a year, my daughter and I try to have a girls day out. We do a bit of window shopping, have lunch and then go see a movie. We always pick out a fun one, (usually a cartoon like Chicken Little or Finding Nemo) and laugh all the way home.

    • Sharlotte January 19, 2013 at 8:50 am #

      Only once a year?

  25. Lisa Weinstein December 27, 2012 at 12:43 pm #

    These are such wonderful ideas! I think my daughter is still a bit too young, at 15, she would rather be with her friends. Although lunch and shopping goes over well….as long as I am buying her clothes!! LOL. Thanks for great ideas – Lisa

    • hillary December 28, 2012 at 6:39 am #

      Shopping definitely qualifies as a date!

  26. Cindy December 28, 2012 at 2:48 am #

    Great ideas… My daughter is 17 and we started a mommy daughter weekend when she turned 10. See my husband and son go away every year on a Father& Son Canoe trip. So thats when we do something together. But we also go to movies together and read some of the same books. I think it is important to spend quality time with your kids one one one=)

    Cheers Doll!!

    • hillary December 28, 2012 at 6:36 am #

      Wow a whole weekend sounds fantastic! I’m trying to plan one with my Mom and sis for this year!

  27. Mary December 29, 2012 at 7:11 pm #

    I’m so glad I came across you blog… My daughter and I have had dates… And it’s wonderful to see/hear/read that other mother are doing fun activities with their daughters to build a bond with them. Thank you for sharing different ideas πŸ™‚

  28. Baylee December 29, 2012 at 11:07 pm #

    These are great! I am 15 and my mother and I have been through a lot recently and right now we are kind of distant from each other, but now I can use some of these ideas to help reconnect with her! One thing I would also suggest is going to a midnight premiere! My mom and went to see Eclipse when it came out in the summer, and it was a blast! We got there early, at like 6, and we just sat and talked and laughed our butts off the whole time! We got real close after that, and I enjoyed it immensly! I would definitely recommend it for any mother who has a daughter interested in big movies like that (such as the Hunger Games) ;). It will totally be worth it!

  29. sarah December 30, 2012 at 2:57 am #

    Cant wait to do some of this stuff with my mom we already do some of this every once and awhile

  30. Steph Finley December 30, 2012 at 4:45 pm #

    This is awesome! Thank you for sharing!

  31. Sandy December 30, 2012 at 9:28 pm #

    I have older girls and all of these ideas are great! I’m such a sap, I was crying before I even finished the list. Definitely doing these!

  32. lilly January 2, 2013 at 3:21 am #

    omg i loved this list thank you so much!!!

  33. Abi January 2, 2013 at 10:45 am #

    I found this on Pinterest. Thanks for the great ideas! I’ll definitely be checking out the rest of your blog πŸ™‚

  34. Linda January 2, 2013 at 8:39 pm #

    How timely! My daughter will go off to college next Fall. We already do many of these things and are planning more for this summer. Don’t over look the importance of simply “checking in” for quick a conversation each day. I attribute this above all to our strong relationship . Thanks so much for sharing.

  35. Shirley Carpenter January 3, 2013 at 6:38 am #

    I found this on Pinterest. Thanks for the great ideas! I’m trying to create some wonderful memories with my step-daughter (17), i am wondering if you may have heard of any ideas for step children, because it is just a different relationship no matter how wonderful she may be,(and mine is so wonderful).

    • hillary January 3, 2013 at 7:17 am #

      That is a really great question. I hadn’t considered that before and I don’t really have any answers for you, but I am going to ask some friends who have great relationships with their stepmoms πŸ™‚ Thank you for visiting!

  36. Pat Sabiston January 5, 2013 at 4:40 pm #

    For the New Year, I told my two grown daughters and I was going to spend time with them one-on-one doing something every other month. Then, every alternating month, we’d do something together. Thanks for giving us a jumpstart!

  37. Susan January 5, 2013 at 10:26 pm #

    loved this! It made me think of my mom, I lost her 2 1/2 years ago, so every memory I cherish. As an only child, it didn’t necessarily seem like we were having “special” time together, but now I realize how special it really was. I’ve been trying to do things with my daughter that will give her good memories, and I think I will also be trying to do the same with my son. Mom’s and son’s can have a great bond also, and hopefully it will teach him how to treat the women in his life.

    Thanks again for the ideas!

    • Tammy April 6, 2013 at 4:05 pm #

      I only have one son and I have been doing special things with him all his life. We have gone horseback riding, tubing, on trips (took him to Cuba just before high school started), to movies – we find one we both agree upon…lol. We also go out for dinner and shopping. We have a deal on the shopping. If we are buying things for him, then he has to put up with me getting things too….lol. Now he has become my greatest fashion critic! We have developed a great relationship. He’s in university now but when he comes home, we still do stuff together.
      I’d love to do more things with my mom but she can’t get out of the house much. We could do some of the ideas posted though. Thanks for that!!

  38. Raye W January 6, 2013 at 9:53 am #

    I found this through TipJunkie and am delighted. I did nearly everything on the list with my daughters as they grew up. They’re now grown, with children of their own, and I truly believe our special dates are part of the reason we have such great relationships to this day.
    One of their favorite ‘dates’ was when I would give them a date in advance, along with a set amount of money and time limit, and allow them to decide what we would do. I am still amazed at how well they would plan, and how well they budgeted down to the penny to achieve whatever they’d decided. Now that they’re grown, they’ve switched roles with me, and I’m not taking them on dates, they take me LOL.
    A few years ago, for Mother’s Day, they surprised me with season tickets to the local outdoor musical theater. Two tickets per show. They each choose which shows they’d most like to see, and take turns. It’s become a tradition now, we don our summer dresses, pack snacks, and have a wonderful evening together.

    • hillary January 7, 2013 at 6:51 am #

      Wow! The outdoor musical theater sounds amazing! And they should be taking you now πŸ™‚ You deserve it!

  39. Devin Dean January 7, 2013 at 11:12 pm #

    I love doing the all day mall date day with my daughter we started a few years ago and she is now going on 14 and every year she cant wait for our special day together.. Thank you for some more ideas to keep up connected

  40. Sharon January 9, 2013 at 8:00 pm #

    My daughter, my mother (her grandmother) and I went to New York for a weekend to celebrate our birthdays when we turned 25, 50 and 75 all within a few days of each other! We couldn’t find anyone turning 100 to take along. Unforgettable weekend!

    • hillary January 10, 2013 at 3:07 am #

      Epic! I love that you tried to find a 100 year old!

  41. Mimi January 10, 2013 at 8:14 pm #

    I love this post! Nothing like a good spot of bonding with your mother or mother in law for that matter. On my trip home at christmas to London, me and my “maybe one day” mother in law went for manicures and pedicures. It was hilarious watching her clutch her glass of champagne as the lady sorted out her feet and she bounced about because of the tickling. Definitely made some memories!

    • hillary January 11, 2013 at 3:40 am #

      Cute! I cant stand to have my feet scrubbed but I am a sucker for pedicures. Yes, spending time with mom in laws is so important too!

  42. Kaylin January 11, 2013 at 2:27 am #

    Wonderful article, I might surprise my Mom with some of these!! We both LOVE to sew and craft!! <3 my mom!

    • hillary January 11, 2013 at 3:35 am #

      Yay! Glad to help πŸ™‚

  43. Lara Hodge January 12, 2013 at 7:47 am #

    I’m 19, and I love my mom she’s my best friend! when I was younger I told her when I grew up and had my own house that I’d have a granny suit for her :p
    Sometimes spending time with mom is SOO much more fun then just chillin with your friends!
    we did go through those stages where we fought constantly, so those moms out there who have a teenager daughter just giving them a hard time stay positive! they will come through!
    every girl needs her mom, I don’t know what I’d ever do without mine! I’m such a mommas girl!
    thanks for the new ideas! you sound like a great mom!

    • hillary January 14, 2013 at 7:27 am #

      Thank you! I hope so much to have such a wonderful relationship with my daughter one day πŸ™‚ I look forward to that friendship.

  44. amanda January 14, 2013 at 12:38 am #

    my step daughter and i definitely need a mother-daughter date =)

  45. Jackie January 14, 2013 at 12:45 pm #

    Thank you. My 24-year-old daughter sent me this link, and I was delighted to see how many of these things we do or have done. The one thing I regret is that I didn’t figure out sooner how much more fun shopping was by giving her a budget. Much to her surprise (and, frankly, mine), she pulled together a beautiful prom ensemble for little more than $100. I highly recommend giving her a gift card instead of your credit card.

    • hillary January 14, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

      Good to know! Yes, I bet by giving her a budget you eliminate any tension or disappointment if you can’t buy everything she wants.

  46. Jennifer January 15, 2013 at 2:07 pm #

    LOVE LOVE LOVE!! Some of the simplist things to do!! Its always good to be reminded. Things to pass down to our daughter’s daughters too. Thanks:~))

  47. Crystal Cagle January 19, 2013 at 3:03 pm #

    My step daughter just turned 13 and I feel very lucky that she enjoys spending so much time with me! We just recently started scrapbooking together and I know she would definitely enjoy several of your wonderful ideas! Thank you so much!

    • hillary January 20, 2013 at 9:23 pm #

      Good! Hope they work out for you!

  48. kaity January 19, 2013 at 5:21 pm #

    My mom recently passed away at age 55. Although I didn’t get to do all of those ideas we did often go out to lunch , movies, skip school once to talk. When away for school talked a few times a day! Those are great ideas and really something you will remember forever even when moms aren’t around anymore. I’ve always believe moms should be a daughters best friend.

    • hillary January 20, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

      Absolutely. Those special times are the best memories. So sorry about your mom. I can’t imagine losing mine at such a young age.

  49. Sharon January 20, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

    The first weekend in February I will be spending with my daughter. Her husband and daughter will be on a pay date and my husband will be off the peruse museums. Joan and I will spend the day starting with brunch ending with a show that evening. These ideas set my mind spinning.

    • hillary January 20, 2013 at 9:17 pm #

      How fun! Hope you have a wonderful time!

  50. Noelle January 20, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

    I had a Grandma Shirley too and she was wonderful and also said I’ll be darned. πŸ™‚ Wish I could do some of these dates with her. What great ideas for me and my daughter when she grows up.

    • hillary January 20, 2013 at 9:16 pm #

      No way! How cool πŸ™‚ I miss my grandma so much–especially around the holidays.

  51. Pam January 22, 2013 at 10:07 am #

    Great ideas. As moms we kinda have an instinct to know when it’s time for such an occasion. We call it mommy time. My daughter is 22 and I can tell when she just needs time to vent and get a little advise, those times when life get tough. You have some great suggestions, some I wouldn’t have thought. I’m ready for a bicycle ride, well as soon as it gets a little warmer outside. Thanks!

    • hillary January 22, 2013 at 10:20 pm #

      Yes! Older daughters definitely need that time too πŸ™‚ I cherish it.

  52. Barb January 24, 2013 at 3:59 am #

    Love these ideas!!!!! I have done probably 90% of them with my adult daughters!! Memory making dates!!

  53. Kim January 26, 2013 at 1:43 am #

    This list is an answer to prayer for me right now. Thank you so much!! I was better at this when my daughters were younger, but really struggled to know “where to start” with my teens. God bless you!

  54. Lyn Goeke January 27, 2013 at 3:34 pm #

    Love this so much! This is the best new page for Pintrest. My new favorite.

  55. Nikki Johnson January 28, 2013 at 2:51 am #

    I have three daughters (21, 17 &14) and our “dates” usually consist of brunches at various restaurants filled with laughter and more laughter on Saturday mornings when one is home from college and the other two aren’t busy. Our all time favorite is our monthly afternoons/evenings of culture or just pure fun at the Kentucky Center for the Arts! Nothing like dressing up and putting on the airs! We often include my mother…three generations, it’s an awesome time.

  56. Liz Lem January 29, 2013 at 2:02 am #

    I really recommend every daughter and mother should do this. It keeps you both very close at heart.Cherish every moment.

  57. Jan January 29, 2013 at 8:47 am #

    Early morning hours and I am up pinning and found this lovely site. I’m a little older than some of these wonderful moms, but this brought back some wonderful memories of when I was a young teen and my mom would plan such wonderful times together. Mom has been gone for quite some time, and I miss her. My daughters are all grown up and have daughters of their own, but we have “dates” together often. We have done many of the listed mom and daughter things together and cherish these wonderful memories. Thank You!

  58. Ryle January 30, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    My mom was just talking to me the other day about finding things we can do together. We have done some of these, but others sound like great ideas! My mom is one of my best friends and I can definitely think of some other ladies I can share this with. Great post!

  59. Reggie February 5, 2013 at 4:13 am #

    Just saw a pin on Pinterest! I have 6 daughters and we love having these dates. We take little out of town trips, do Worlds longest Yardsale, 3 hr. paint classes (which have been so much fun), country concerts(Tim McGraw stackers), fishing trips, glamping, even skeet shooting. We usually end up taking kids to most of our dates, because we hard working dads, but they love the dates as well. I now have a granddaughter who joined the military and she can’t wait to get to go on the dates with us as a grown up. Good luck on you blog.

    • hillary February 5, 2013 at 6:51 pm #

      Thanks for your comment! Sounds like you guys have some wonderful traditions!

  60. Robin February 7, 2013 at 1:28 am #

    These are awesome ideas, done a lot of them with my daughter but thanks for some new ones.
    I love my Mom and daughter dates. Thanks again

    • hillary February 7, 2013 at 7:14 am #

      Great! Glad to have helped!

  61. Daliance February 7, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    First, I have begun a blog and I have no idea what I am doing and actually where it is!!!!!!
    Now, I really enjoyed reading your blog on Mum-Daughter Dates. When I read it was for older daughters, I was hoping it was for teenage or almost teenage daugthers however I quickly noticed that it is for adult daughters.
    GOOD JOB, you for making this list and taking notice that these relationships need to be nurtured in all kinds of ways……… and actually these are great ideas for dates no matter your daughters age.
    Thank you for the ideas, I am STEALING one for this weekend.

  62. DJ February 12, 2013 at 10:22 pm #

    I noticed this article on pinterest and decided to check out your ideas. I have 19 and 17 year old daughters. Yesterday the 17 year old and I had a “Hooky day.” She is in Color Guard and this is their competive season. She has practice during school and three nights a week as well as competition every Saturday from January through April. Leaving Sundays for homework and housework / chores. We needed a day to unwind and regroup. So I took the day off work and she took the day off from school. We started by sleeping in and then we went on a day trip to the Aquarium and had an expensive lunch together complete with a molten lava cake dessert. It was just what we needed to unwind and reconnect.

    The 19 year old had college and I’ve promised to take a day off for her in the future. I’m thinking the “spa day” is what I will do with her.

  63. bill February 22, 2013 at 12:03 am #

    Very heartwarming. The world needs more of this. Young girls today need that support and love. Good to hear that all u moms r trying to bring about a change in this culture that can sometimes divide families. God bless u all.

    • hillary February 22, 2013 at 3:11 am #

      Thank you. And yes, we must be proactive with our young girls. I feel very passionate about this.

  64. Paula February 26, 2013 at 12:33 pm #

    These are some really good ideas for a mother-daughter-day! Thanks for the propositions!

  65. Sherry February 26, 2013 at 8:41 pm #

    I am going to look up your blog> I came across this on pinterest and LOVED it . Love everything you said. I just texted my daughters (have twins) 25 and were going to set up a daughter and mom date.. Thanks for sharing this beautful post. I blog and face book The Rusty Pearl … Would love to have you .. Hugs and blessings for your message and all that you do ………I am so glad that I was belssed enough to find you girl .. hUGS

  66. Sherry February 26, 2013 at 8:41 pm #

    Thank you for blessing us with this post

    • hillary February 27, 2013 at 5:36 pm #

      Thank you for stopping by!!

  67. Charity February 28, 2013 at 1:08 pm #

    OMG….My mom and I are soooo close. We have done probably half of the ideas on this page together. I think it would be a neat idea to take my mom and my daughters on a cruise together. Thanks for sharing!!!!

    • hillary February 28, 2013 at 7:04 pm #

      That’s wonderful! Yes–you should totally do the cruise!

  68. Tori March 4, 2013 at 8:05 pm #

    This list makes me both sad and excited. My mom and I have a not so great relationship. We were close when I was really young, but as I grew older and began to see healthy mother/daughter relationships I realized ours was a bit off. Now that I’m a mama to a sweet/rambunctious 2.5 year old girl I am so hopeful for our future relationship. I have often seen mother/daughter relationships that were so close and it seemed so foreign to me. How could you be friends with your mom?! I know I want it with my own daughter, but I had no idea how to get there without trying to be a lame, “let’s be best friends instead of me being an adult” mom. Now I have been able to look more closely at the relationships around me and reading things like this blog definitely help me to see that it can be done without ruining your authority or being weird. I bookmarked this and the little girl mommy-daughter dates. Let it also be said that having an awesome daddy sure helps with this too!

  69. Jen March 23, 2013 at 8:50 pm #

    #18 – My mom and I went to a storytelling conference together at my future college of choice when I was in high school. I was doing storytelling in forensics and she was the elementary librarian. I was so much fun hearing “Southern style” Greek myths about characters who had “a few loose cogs without a matchin’ wratchit'”! We didn’t get along a lot of the time when I was growing up and that makes this memory even more special. I’m 40 now, and my mom and I get along much better πŸ™‚

    • hillary March 29, 2013 at 5:08 am #

      This sounds incredible!

  70. linda reyna April 18, 2013 at 7:19 am #

    Thanks to my oldest for pinng this site. This are all wonderful

  71. Susan Black May 12, 2013 at 9:00 pm #

    I have 4 daughters from ages 22-16 and I am so glad they are growing up. It is so fun to be a part of their lives and have our dates together. Sometimes it is exhausting but every minute I spend with them is cherished!!!

  72. Judy May 14, 2013 at 7:19 pm #

    My daughter is 1000 miles away from me in law school. One of our “dates”: we both record the same show and set up a time that we are going to watch the show “together”. We then get on gchat and “talk” to each other while we watch the show together. On Mother’s Day night we watched the Survivor Finale “together” — gchatting our comments on the player’s strategy!

    • hillary May 16, 2013 at 5:05 am #

      This made my day! Good for you guys!

  73. Ellen stout May 23, 2013 at 2:15 pm #

    My daughters and I used to have special fun filled “Bingo” nights. Won some – lost some – but always had time for fun and chats. “Life” has changed this, but I might try to put one together again for my oldest daughter’s 50th birthday. Love your blog.

  74. IRather NotSay June 14, 2013 at 9:05 am #

    I am actually a daughter looking for fun ideas for my mom and I today! Thanks this was helpful

  75. Marian July 2, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

    Thank you for the good writeup. It actually was once a leisure account it.
    Glance complex to far added agreeable from you! However, how could we keep in touch?

  76. Krystal Levy August 26, 2013 at 7:25 am #

    I discovered your post via Pinterest and I was curious to see what kinds of date ideas you had. See ever since I can remember, my mom and I have been doing these kinds of dates together and now, even at 30 years old, we are best friends and every Friday night is mommy/daughter night. Over the years we’ve gone on trips, seen plays and concerts, gone out to eat from fancy to casual restaurants, had spa days, and etc. By her implementing this type of bonding with me at such a young age it has truly transformed my life in such a wonderful way. Every mother should do this with her daughter(s). I can’t wait to do the same things with my future children. Great post! It made me smile and love my mommy/daughter times even more! πŸ™‚

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  78. pincess-prom-dress October 4, 2013 at 11:51 pm #

    You and your daughter looks close , maybe that’s why you know how to build a healthy and tight relationship with your kids , but not every mom knows how , i think a lot of not so “great moms ” can pick your brain up , and rebuild their bond with their daughters . Which kind of bond could be as special as a mom between her daughter .

  79. Melanie October 11, 2013 at 6:18 am #

    As a mommy to 2 adult & 1 teen daughter, this list is a great resource! Validated several of my daughter dates & gives me great ideas for new dates. Thank you! My teen & I have scheduled several if these into our calendar, including a few Surprise Dates to the town her sisters live in so they can join the fun! Excited

  80. vivian October 25, 2013 at 4:45 pm #

    I would love to have a mother date with my daughter. She has not spoke to me for twenty plus years. I love her with all my heart, I have sent letters, cards, and made calls. She has blocked me from her facebook, her home phone. The only contact I have is through her work. Then they lie to me and say she is not there. I am seventy three years old and I would love to hold her one more time before I die. God bless you my child.

  81. Krisie Boothe November 1, 2013 at 12:08 pm #

    My favorite memories are those that I spent running around with my daughters. On occasion I’d let them skip school for a few hours. It was usually for a picnic in the park and time playing on the play ground. A camera to capture the fun is a must. Thanks for the reminder. Now that their lives have taken new directions and time together is harder to come by I cherish those memories greatly!

  82. Sue November 7, 2013 at 8:07 am #

    One of my favorite memories was when, as a teen, my Mom kept me out of school to go roller-skating! It was just the two of us and one of her close friends and we were the only ones in the rink. We had so much fun having the place to ourselves, skating and listening to the music. What a great time!

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  86. Victoria March 11, 2014 at 11:03 am #

    Im a teen (16) looking for something to do with my mom… ik opposite, and i looked at this list and found that my mom wouldnt do any of this with me :'( oh well, next list

  87. alexi July 9, 2014 at 5:05 pm #

    wow, these ideas are great i really need time with my mu. i am gonna bake and have a movie day

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  90. Monique December 10, 2014 at 8:54 am #

    Today is my daughter’s 14th birthday, and I was just looking around for something for us to do together. I am working until lunch, and going to check her out of school today! I thought about it this morning, but wasn’t sure until I read your blog, thank you! We are definitely going on a lunch/shopping date!! I also seen a lot of ideas for my older daughter. She is turning 21yrs old in February, and would love to take her on a wine tasting!!

  91. Teenage daughter March 7, 2015 at 7:41 am #

    I love doing things with my mom and I wanna do stuff she wants and she wants to do stuff I want but my honest opion in the nicest way is that I think you should do a little updated way these things are okay for some but I think there a little boring and not things most teenagers would want to do. Release your inner child/teenager think like us or ask people are age just a idea

  92. Scentsy Katie March 31, 2015 at 8:08 am #

    Funny you mention a day of playing hooky. My daughter recently asked me if we could have a Ferris Bueller Day off sometime. How can I say no to that?

  93. lily July 6, 2015 at 11:53 am #

    love these great ideas

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  94. mikie October 29, 2015 at 7:52 pm #

    Thank you so much for this! This is one of the most WORTHY blogs I’ve read in a REALLY long time! My daughters are 9 and 7 and I am so excited that I have plenty of time to start this mommy/daughter tradition with them!

  95. Kim Douglas March 29, 2017 at 7:33 am #

    Just wants to thanks, my daughters 13 and we seem to bicker back-and-forth all day I want to spend positive time with her your ideas are great

  96. Aileen Coward May 17, 2017 at 6:20 pm #

    Love all your ideas. Have done many of them with my 31 year old daughter. Looking forward to working on our family history as mother/daughter. Hopefully all the time and things we do together are making lasting memories. My mom passed away from breast cancer when I was 7 years old so I have very few memories of any mother/daughter activities. I feel the more my daughter and I do together the closer we are becoming. She got married in 2016 so now I am just waiting for grandma/grandchild time together.

  97. Renee February 20, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    My 18 year old daughter and I worked the presidential election together. She was taking a government class that she thought was boring and I thought this opportunity might help her get more into the topic. She wanted a new phone so she was motivated for the money. It was from 6:00 am to 8 pm and although it was long, it was a great experience for both of us. She has awesome people skills and I loved watching her. So glad we stopped to create the memory!

  98. hillary February 22, 2013 at 2:41 am #

    Now THAT is a unique one! So how old is your daughter–I’m tucking that one away for future use!

  99. Shannon February 8, 2013 at 4:08 am #

    A couple of other fun ideas- My grown daughters and I have taken Spanish lessons together, gone pottery painting, and plan to take a day-trip train ride to shop in another city. I like your idea about Writing Your History. That is something I keep wanting to do with my 86-year-old mother and I needed a reminder.


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